On Becoming Babywise: 11 to 16 Weeks

Josh and I decided early on before our first baby was born that we would be following the schedule outlined in On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep.

I blogged about our Babywise experience with Caden and several weeks ago shared how our experience was going the third time using the Babywise with Jesse. While I am no expert on sleeping babies, we have used Babywise twice before and had great success. If you are curious about Babywise or are using Babywise in your own home I hope you find this post and those that follow equally as helpful.

Recommended Reading: On Becoming Babywise: Birth to 2 WeeksOn Becoming Babywise: 3 to 6 Weeks, and On Becoming Babywise: 7 to 10 Weeks

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Schedule

These last few weeks Jesse was successfully able to drop his dream feed and transition to sleeping 10+ hours at night.

Week 11
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 10:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib (Dream Feed)
Week 12
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 10:15pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib (Dream Feed)
Week 13
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 10:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib (Dream Feed)
Week 14
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 9:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib (Dream Feed)
Week 15
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 9:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib (Dream Feed)
Week 16
  • 6:40am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib

Nursing

Jesse is nursing every 2 1/2 to 3 hours during the day and is now going to bed around 8pm and sleeping 10 1/2 hour stretches at night!

Merge Three

During week sixteen Jesse dropped his dreamfeed and is now nursing 6 times in 24 hours. Jesse has successfully completed Merge One (combining his two nighttime feedings into one) and Merge Two (dropping his middle of the night feeding) and now Merge Three by dropping his dream feed . YAY!

If you look back at Jesse’s schedule you can see that his dream feed started at 10:30pm and over the course of the last several weeks was moved in 15 minute increments to get closer to 9pm. I have found that by dropping the dream feed this way I am able to better allow my body to adjust so I don’t wake up totally uncomfortable in the morning.

The dream feed is the last feeding for the day and is typically offered between 10pm – 11pm. The baby will already be in bed before this feeding. Any feeding that happens after 11:30 PM is not a dream feed and is considered a night feeding.

Waketime

Jesse’s waketime is his feeding time and 30-45 minutes after he nurses. He is awake anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes before he goes back to his crib for a nap.

During his waketime when he isn’t eating or getting a diaper change he is on his playmat smiling at the overhead toys or the ceiling fan, doing tummy time, or sitting in his bouncer.

Naps & Night Sleep

Jesse is still napping fairly well. We have been getting out of the house a little more as a family which has been nice and even managed to take a hike together last week. It was amazing. The only downside to doing these types of activities is that they coincide with his naps which is why we do so sparingly.

He just turned 4 months old so I was finally able to take out my Ergo Baby Carrier and used that for the hike. Up until this point I had been using my Solly Baby Wrap. He slept the entire time and I am hoping to be able to get some more family hiking days in during the next few weeks while the temperature allows.

I was a little apprehensive to drop the dream feed just because he was already sleeping so well but I knew he was ready to drop it for several reasons. He had been sleeping through the night consistently for over 4 weeks, I was having to wake him up for his dream feeds, and he was at an age where he would still be at an appropriate number of feedings during a 24 hour period without it.

To drop this feeding I just moved the time for the dream feed back by 15 minutes over the course of the last few weeks. See the schedule above for more details if you have questions.

He is doing really great at night sleeping since dropping his dream feed. Now I just need to retrain my body to not wake up several times at night so I can sleep just as well as he does ;).

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On Becoming Babywise: 7 to 10 Weeks

Josh and I decided early on before our first baby was born that we would be following the schedule outlined in On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep.

I blogged about our Babywise experience with Caden and several weeks ago shared how our experience was going the third time using the Babywise with Jesse. While I am no expert on sleeping babies, we have used Babywise twice before and had great success. If you are curious about Babywise or are using Babywise in your own home I hope you find this post and those that follow equally as helpful.

Recommended Reading: On Becoming Babywise: Birth to 2 Weeks and On Becoming Babywise: 3 to 6 Weeks

I took this picture of Jesse at 7am and he was still sleeping from his last feeding at 10:30pm! Sleeping babes are so cute!

Then I woke him up. He gives me the biggest smiles in the morning. I love his smile!

Schedule

Let me start off by saying these last few weeks have always been the most difficult for me to navigate. Is the baby ready to sleep during the night? If he wakes up, is it because he is hungry or will he settle himself back down? Should I feed him or wait a few minutes? These are the questions that have been playing around in my head over these last several weeks.

Week 7
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:30pm: Nap
  • 7:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 11pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 3am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
Week 8
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:30pm: Nap
  • 7:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 11pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 4am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
Week 9
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:30pm: Nap
  • 7:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 11pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 5am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
Week 10
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:00pm: Nap
  • 7:00pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 10:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib

Weeks 7-9 were very similar, the only difference was that Jesse started to sleep past 3am and make it until 4am and then 5am before waking to eat. Week 10, just this last week, was when I changed his nighttime schedule up and he slept 8 hours without waking up!!!

Nursing

Jesse is nursing every 2 1/2 to 3 hours during the day and is now going 8 hour stretches at night! My letdown and engorgement is starting to ease up. It really is amazing how your body starts to adapt to the needs of the baby. The first few days when his nighttime sleep stretched longer were the worst and I would wake up with my bed soaking wet and need to change clothes, but now it is much better. I am still leaking periodically but it is so much better.

Merge Two

During weeks seven, eight, and nine Jesse was nursing 8 times in 24 hours and has since went to 7 feedings during week ten. Babywise helps parents to adapt successfully from one growth stage to the next using the merge principal. In total there are seven merges that happen over the course of the first year. Jesse has successfully completed the Merge One (combining his two nighttime feedings into one) and Merge Two by dropping his middle of the night feeding . YAY!

Most Babywise babies drop their middle of the night feeding sometime between weeks seven and ten and they begin to stretch their nighttime sleep from 4 hours to 8 hours. If you look back at Jesse’s schedule you can see that he was nursing at 3am, which moved to 4am, which moved to 5am and during week ten he dropped this feeding and began sleeping 8 hours.

I want to stress that I didn’t just decide or force Jesse to drop his middle of the night feeding. He did it all on his own.  Keep reading for tips on how to troubleshoot this Merge below.

Waketime

Jesse’s waketime is his feeding time and 30 minutes after he nurses. He is awake anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes before he goes back to his crib for a nap.

During his waketime when he isn’t eating or getting a diaper change he is on his playmat smiling at the overhead toys or the ceiling fan, doing tummy time, or sitting in his bouncer.

Naps & Night Sleep

Jesse’s naps have been going very well. He is sleeping so great and even sleeps with Caden and Maisie playing loudly. His naps are typically taken in his crib and only if absolutely necessary do we wake him early from a nap, run errands during naps, or have him nap in his carseat. I take Maisie to a Parent Tot class once a week and the last three weeks it has landed on Josh’s shift days so Jesse gets to tag along with us. The class happens during his nap so I wear him in my Solly Baby Wrap and he sleeps the entire time, plus my hands are free to help Maisie.

The middle of the night feeding is always the hardest to drop in my opinion. By this stage I am pretty confident in deciphering a hungry cry from a middle of the night talking and making noise whimper, but between the hours of 12am-5am I am pretty out of it and just plain tired. A few nights I went into Jesse’s room before he was actually awake because he was making noise and tired to nurse him only to have him nurse for 3 minutes before he was passed out again. He obviously wasn’t hungry and didn’t take anywhere close to a full feeding.

Here are a few helpful tips to determine if your baby is ready to drop the middle of the night feeding session…

If your baby isn’t taking a full feeding, is falling asleep while eating, or you are having to wake them to eat at this point in your Babywise journey chances are good they are ready to drop the middle of the night feeding.

Another thing to notice is how your baby is eating for the first feeding session of the day. Are they taking a full feeding? If they don’t seem hungry and aren’t interested in eating you can try to drop the middle of the night nursing session.

Once you have determined that your baby is ready to drop the middle of the night feeding you can help them along by stretching out your feeding times. What I did with Jesse was take his 3am feeding, which I was starting to have to wake him up for, and let him sleep until 4am. Then a week later did the same thing and pushed the 4am feeding to 5am.

Once we were at a 5am feeding I started to notice he wasn’t eating as much at 7am. This is when I began to taper off the amount of time he was eating at 5am. He started out nursing for 12 minutes total, the next day he ate for 10 minutes, a few days later he stopped nursing after 8 minutes, and then finally he kept sleeping. If you are breastfeeding this tapering approach is great because it allows your supply to adjust gradually.

The sleep environment is also really important when it comes to ensuring that your baby (and you) get a good night of rest. Jesse sleeps in his room, on his back, swaddled, and in his crib. We have a white noise machine, warm mist humidifier, nightlight, music (we have the sheep), and black out curtains to help create the most comfortable sleep environment for him. It might sound like a lot of “stuff” but I know from our experience with Caden and Maisie that these items help.

I firmly believe that being intentional and consistent with your baby’s schedule and routine plays a huge factor in being able to give your baby, yourself, and your family the rest that is needed for overall health and wellness.

I have lost count on how many times I have read On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep. You would think at this point I would have it memorized but each time I read it I feel more empowered and equipped to parent my baby. Both Josh and I are super thankful for the knowledge this book has given us. I highly recommend Babywise if you have a baby or are currently pregnant!

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On Becoming Babywise: 3 to 6 Weeks

Josh and I decided early on before our first baby was born that we would be following the schedule outlined in On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the GIFT of Nighttime Sleep.

I blogged about our Babywise experience with Caden and several weeks ago shared how our experience was going the third time using the Babywise with Jesse. While I am no expert on sleeping babies, we have used Babywise twice before and had great success. If you are curious about Babywise or are using Babywise in your own home I hope you find this post and those that follow equally as helpful.

Oh, and if there are typos or run on sentences in this post, please forgive me. It has taken me over a week to type this up. #momlife #momof3 #daddywentbacktowork

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Schedule

This is a rough outline of what our routine is during the day. Some feedings are adjusted by 30 minutes if the baby needs to be fed sooner because he is hungry.

Week 3-4
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6pm: Nap
  • 8pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 11pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 2am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 4am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
Week 5-6
  • 7am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 8:30am: Nap
  • 9:30am: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 10:30am Nap
  • 12pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 1:00pm: Nap
  • 2:30pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 4pm: Nap
  • 5pm: Eat/Waketime, Diapering
  • 6:30pm: Nap
  • 7:30pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 11pm: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib
  • 3am: Eat, Diaper, Back to Crib

Jesse’s 2am and 4am feeding merged together to become a 3am feeding. Yay! More on this below.

Nursing

Jesse is nursing every 2 1/2 to 3 hours during the day and is going 4 hour stretches at night. I am not sure why this time around I having so many issues with nursing but between mastitis and a plugged duct I am overly paranoid about anything that feels somewhat off in my boobs. Now that I got that off my chest…haha…did you catch what I did there? That pun was intended.

Anyway…because I was nursing and pumping and massaging while I had mastitis I created an oversupply of milk which I am still trying to correct. I feel like I might be finally on the verge of getting my supply somewhat adjusted but I know that Jesse will be dropping a feeding soon and I will begin the entire process over. Ice packs have helped as has not pumping or hand expressing to the point of emptying only to the point to relieve engorgement.

My letdown is also super fast and I have to take him off within a minute of latching on and catch the milk into a towel. If I don’t do this it causes Jesse to gag and get sick because it is too much milk coming at him. I am hoping that over the next few weeks this corrects itself as well.

Merge One

During weeks three and four Jesse was nursing 9 times in 24 hours and has since went to 8 feedings during weeks five and six. Babywise helps parents to adapt successfully from one growth stage to the next using the merge principal. In total there are seven merges that happen over the course of the first year. Jesse has successfully completed Merge One by combining his two nighttime feedings into one. YAY!

Most babies start out nursing twice during the night and sometime between weeks three and six they begin to stretch their nighttime sleep from 3 hours up to 4 hours. If you look back at Jesse’s schedule you can see that he was nursing at 2am and 4am and during week five he merged these two feedings together for a 3am feeding.

The most important thing I want to stress is to understand the difference between your infants capacity and ability. I can’t just decide that I am going to drop or change Jesse’s schedule unless he has the physical capacity and ability to make that adjustment. This is something that is stated over and over in the book.

Waketime

Jesse’s waketime is his feeding time and he is starting to extend his waketime slightly after his feedings. I am trying to make sure that I notice his sleepy cues like yawning and becoming agitated. With two other kids to watch I sometimes miss these cues. The majority of the time he is back in his crib within an hour and fifteen minutes after his feeding.

During his waketime when he isn’t eating or getting a diaper change he is on his playmat smiling at the overhead toys or the ceiling fan, doing tummy time, or sitting in his bouncer.

Naps & Night Sleep

Jesse’s naps last anywhere from 45 minutes to an hour. If he wakes early he is usually fussy. Sometimes he will make noises for several minutes and fall back asleep. If he continues to cry of the cry escalates to a scream the nap is over and he comes out of his crib until his next feeding.

Night sleep is actually going really well. Since he has merged his two feedings to one I have my alarm set for 3am. If he is not awake when my alarm goes off I hit the snooze button once or twice if I am lucky before he is awake and ready to eat. Most of the time he is already awake and ready to eat at 3am. Once he is fed, changed, and burped he is swaddled and is able to be laid back down in his crib. He is back to sleep within 10 minutes of being laid down.

With his feedings dropping down to twice a night and then to once at 3am I have been able to handle the feedings, diapering, and re-swaddling on my own which has allowed Josh to get the much needed sleep he needs for his job. After being off work for over a month he went back on shift three weeks ago. Which leads me to my last topic for this post…

Family Life

It was amazing having Josh home for so much time. I truly felt like it was needed. This was the most time he had taken off work after any of our babies came home. He was home for two weeks after Caden and Maisie were born. With your first baby you are still able to have some time to yourself during the day when they are napping, with your second you might be lucky to sneak a nap in for yourself during the day if your two kids are sleeping at the same time, and with your third you find yourself at the end of day in the same clothes you woke up and can’t remember when the last time it was that you washed your hair. Basically, I live in pajamas, all day, everyday.

But in all seriousness bringing a new member into your family while amazing is a huge adjustment. For everyone. Parenting is so rewarding and requires an extraordinary amount of selflessness. Marriage and parenting take effort and giving yourself intentionally to each other. Jesse has given us another chance to love more sacrificially and enjoy the miracle of new life. I am not really sure where I am going with this paragraph just to say that I am so thankful that Jesse is part of our family. I can’t imagine him not with us.

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